We are very lucky. My godfather spent 20 days in the ICU due to COVID-19 and twice was presented DNR papers to sign, giving him 30 minutes to improve his oxygen saturation levels prior to intubating him.
He is home–still recovering, but home. He was diagnosed on Mar. 16. We spoke on Mar. 18 and at that time, “it was not as bad as the flu, just more aggravating.” On Mar. 20 he was admitted to the hospital, Mar. 22 the ICU and discharged home on Apr. 12. He is still recovering, but can now walk for 30 minutes. He played fullback for Coach Parcells at Vanderbilt, and on Mar. 15, he was in the best shape of his life. We are lucky.
It is really hard. Like many, Beth and I both work full-time. Trying to excel in our professions, parent/teach/keep it on the rails with our two children (five and three) and have a relationship is impossible. The peace of two sleeping children is often our greatest victory.
Perspective, patience and community have been key to “handling” the stress of the pandemic.
Perspective that our health, the health of our team, the health of their families and the health of our families and loved ones is paramount.
Patience that we are all going through this together. We have to be patient with each other because it's impossible to know if someone is up or down on the “coronacoaster.” I can't say that I always have perspective and patience, but it's something I am consciously working towards.
Our community has provided us with plenty of silver linings. We have felt great joy in sharing Mill Ridge on virtual tours, we have had many family picnics that never would have occurred because we would have been “too busy” in the past and we have forged relationships with plenty of neighbors with whom we would have normally only shared a passing hello. And, the love I felt at the outpouring of support when I tested positive for COVID-19 recently and had to isolate away from my family for 11 days. I was lucky and asymptomatic.
We will get through this and be stronger together.
Would you be willing to share your thoughts on stress during this particularly difficult time? Email the TDN's Katie Ritz at [email protected] or Sue Finley at [email protected].
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